Is Oral Sex Okay?
I’m addressing this tricky question because someone wrote me wanting an honest answer based on Scriptural truth. If one person is asking this question, others are too (they just prefer to remain silent because it’s a TMI sort of topic).
The Bible doesn’t specifically mention oral sex, but arguably implies it in a figurative sense; particularly in the Song of Songs, which features sensuous song lyrics filled with suggestive imagery that applauds sexuality as a normal part of marital life between a biological man and woman. Obviously sexual activity outside of the marriage covenant is not sanctioned by the LORD.
The Song of Songs is only eight short chapters so, if you’re not familiar with it, I encourage you to read it.
Here’s an example of what I’m talking about from Song of Songs with the woman speaking about her man:
3 Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest
is my beloved among the young men.
I delight to sit in his shade,
and his fruit is sweet to my taste.
4 Let him lead me to the banquet hall,
and let his banner over me be love.
5 Strengthen me with raisins,
refresh me with apples,
for I am faint with love.
6 His left arm is under my head,
and his right arm embraces me.Song of Songs 2:3-6
And here’s an example of the man speaking of his beloved:
6 How beautiful you are and how pleasing,
my love, with your delights!
7 Your stature is like that of the palm,
and your breasts like clusters of fruit.
8 I said, “I will climb the palm tree;
I will take hold of its fruit.”
May your breasts be like clusters of grapes on the vine,
the fragrance of your breath like apples,
9 and your mouth like the best wine.Song of Songs 7:6-9
Some Christians find such frank romantic sensuality in the Bible surprising, which compels some religionists to interpret the passages in a strictly symbolic sense relating to the LORD’s love for Israel or Christ’s love for his bride, the Church. While I’ve no doubt that these verses can be interpreted on such a level, it doesn’t change the fact that we must first regard them from a purely straightforward standpoint: They’re a beautiful testimony to the romantic love enjoyed by a man and wife.
So can spouses partake of oral sex with their mates or not? It’s entirely up to the individual and what they believe. If the husband & wife have no qualms, what’s it to me? If they do have qualms or simply don’t want to do it, then obviously they shouldn’t. The Bible puts it this way: “everything that does not come from faith [belief] is sin” (Romans 14:23). The Scriptures also say “To the pure, all things are pure, but to those who are corrupted and do not believe, nothing is pure” (Titus 1:15).
At the end of the day it’s a private issue between husbands & wives.
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Related Topics:
Beauty, Objectification and Lust
The Four Types of LOVE in the Bible
What IS Marriage? (and Related Topics)
Q&A on Solomon’s Song of Songs
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